Popular marriage counselor, Pastor Chris Ojigbani has also reacted to the controversial statements caused by the G.O of RCCG, Pastor Adeboye.
Pastor Chris said, among other things that long prayers are
tantamount to 'vain repetitions',
which the bible frowns upon. Using
scriptural references, he also said it
will be a sin for a man to divorce his wife for her inability to cook.
Read what he said below...very interesting...
"Recently, there is this controversy going on in the social media that a man shouldn’t marry a woman
who doesn’t know how to
cook or a woman who doesn’t pray for an hour.
So, I deem it necessary to clarify
the issue. As the apostle of marriage, it’s my responsibility to clarify the issue to avoid causing more delayed marriage, separation and
divorce in the world.
This is the will of God concerning the issue: You must not use cooking as a criterion for choosing your
spouse. Though food is important in life, cooking must not be used as a criterion for choosing a
Why? I tell you three reasons.
First, a woman who doesn’t know how to cook can actually learn how to cook.
Second, a woman can employ
the services of a professional
Third, a husband can tolerate if his wife doesn’t cook very well. Tolerance is important in marriage
because everybody has
weaknesses, both husbands
and wives. If a woman doesn’t know how to cook, it should be
regarded as a weakness and
the husband has to tolerate in
order to be happy.
It’s very wrong for a man to divorce his wife because she doesn’t
know how to cook. Nobody used cooking as a criterion for choosing a spouse in the Bible.
In fact, when Isaac married Rebekah, he didn’t meet her, it was his servant that proposed marriage to Rebekah on behalf of Isaac and paid the bride price even before Isaac set his eyes on Rebekah. So in Christianity, we don’t use cooking as a criterion for choosing a
It’s also important you note that praying for an hour must not be used as a criterion for choosing a spouse. There is no scripture that says Christians must pray for an hour before they become good Christians. What Jesus Christ asked his disciples was:
why couldn’t they watch with
Him for an hour. Watching is
different from praying. And when they failed to watch with him for an hour, they didn’t cease to be Christians.
Even Peter, who couldn’t watch for an hour became the head of the disciples. If Peter couldn’t watch for an hour and still became the head of the disciples, why should we
use praying for an hour as a
criterion for choosing a spouse?
Do you know that vain repletion is a sin in Christianity? Jesus Christ said
that we should not speak much in prayer. In Matthew 6:7-8, the Bible says that speaking much in prayer is a sin. If you need something, you should ask your Father what you need. Just go straight to the point - the Bible says that He already knows what you need, even before
you ask Him.
So, if you are not yet married and you are a man, never you use cooking as a criterion for choosing
your spouse. It’s very wrong. God will not be happy with you if you do something like that. I am speaking to you as the apostle of marriage that God has sent to correct the wrong doctrines of marriage in the
Get married, not because a woman knows how to cook, but because she is a good woman. If you marry someone that knows how to cook and she is not good, what happens to you?
Man shall not live by bread alone. If you are a married man under the sound of my voice, never you divorce your wife because she doesn’t know how to cook. You can teach her how to cook or you tolerate her.
Marriage is about tolerance. And as a husband, it’s important you note that it’s your responsibility to nourish your wife, tolerate her, forgive her, and take good care of her. It’s a job you have to do. God bless you. I love you!
Don’t forget: marriage is beyond cooking; marriage is beyond praying for an hour.
Marriage is an old fashioned institution. It’s the oldest institution and must be honored"